Self-Compassion

We find that many of our clients are quite harsh on themselves when they are not perfect on their plan.  The problem with that is no one is perfect.  That said, the program we design for each of our clients is a guide to provide them with the best results.  But, what can be done when plans are deviated?  Instead of chastising ourselves why not try treating yourself like a friend?

This is where self-compassion can be used.  Unlike self-esteem which focuses on self-evaluation and accomplishment, self-compassion involves a consistent attitude of being kind and accepting.  Think of the way you would speak to a good friend who comes to you with a problem.

Harnessing self-compassion involves these three steps:

1. Self-kindness vs. self-judgment.
2. Mindfulness vs. over-identification with thoughts.
3. Common humanity vs. isolation. 

Using self-compassion offers a few rewards.  For one, self-kindness stops us from judging ourselves too harshly.  Mindfulness minimizes focusing on our problems.  Lastly, common humanity will help us to stop being the victim.

Here are a few rewards of self-compassion:

• Happiness
• Optimism
• Wisdom
• Curiosity
• Agreeableness
• Conscientiouness 

We all face problems, but why not try being a little more compassionate next time.  You may be surprised!

Reference:  Psychology Today, The Many Benefits of Self-Compassion, https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compassion-matters/201610/the-many-benefits-self-compassion